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stevva: we have this detergent in poland called just a minute mom, let me finish fisting the stove

Sun, 28 Apr 2013 23:13:13 +0800

stevva:

we have this detergent in poland called

just a minute mom, let me finish fisting the stove

pantiesforbreakfast: there are tears rolling down my face holy...

Sun, 28 Apr 2013 23:10:27 +0800

pantiesforbreakfast:

there are tears rolling down my face

holy shit

Make sense

The New Birthday Cake

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 23:22:53 +0800

The New Birthday Cake

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distraction: niick4: thatkidderic: shwagerr: Finally see...

Sun, 31 Mar 2013 18:20:14 +0800

distraction:

niick4:

thatkidderic:

shwagerr:

Finally see this on my dash again

I’m crying lmao

oh my goD

but he’s asian he should be doing math not being beyonce

ilovedessert: cheddarbunny: egwmusic: adios-toreadork: raptor...

Sun, 31 Mar 2013 18:06:24 +0800

ilovedessert:

cheddarbunny:

egwmusic:

adios-toreadork:

raptorbane:

melrosediner:

anonymousjuice:

teasingjezebelle:

an0m0ly:

Damage

This is not my usual post. But it’s something I had to share. As you read this, imagine how your reaction would differ if this story were being told by a woman, talking about how her husband treated her.

I have been separated from my wife for over a year, though we continue to share a house. We live on separate floors. We share the house because we need to parent our son together, and because we can’t afford to maintain two households.

I’d like to tell you a story, illustrating one reason why I am divorcing her. This is an example of the treatment I have received over the past fourteen years.

This evening, while she was drinking her wine, my estranged wife took exception to the fact that I wanted to talk about how tense she’s been. She said she didn’t want to talk about it.

I left the room (so as to comply with her request).

I went upstairs to use our tiny guest bathroom. She began to yell and throw things around the kitchen, then eventually charged up the stairs and into the bathroom, just as I was finishing and getting ready to leave. She confronted me there, holding her half-full wine glass in her hand. Her voice got louder, her gestures wilder.

She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your emotions responsibly like an adult?”

She said, “Yes!! It’s because you want to go off and take a vacation with your girlfriend!” Then she threw the contents of her glass in my face and smashed it against my bare chest.

The results are pictured here.

I stood there, with shattered glass at my feet, glass shards sticking in my skin, bleeding, for five minutes or so. I asked her to move so that I could leave. She waved the broken stem of the glass in the air and said, “Leave!! Who’s stopping you?”

I told her she was standing between me and the door. I felt threatened.

She laughed and said, “You’re 6 foot 3 and 250 pounds! You can’t feel threatened by me!”

I said, “You just broke a glass on my chest and cut me. You’re standing there with the stem in your hands. Yes. I feel threatened.

She said, “No, you don’t.”

I asked her to move out of the way and let me pass. I didn’t want her to think I was pushing her or threatening her.

She held her ground, waved the broken stem and shouted, “Go on! Leave! I’m not stopping you!”

After I asked her repeatedly, she finally moved a bit and I left, carefully stepping over the broken glass.

I have posted this here as evidence, and to help those who may think that size and gender make a difference when abuse is concerned. People who, like my estranged, think some have permission to feel threatened and some don’t.

Abusers come in all sizes and genders.

She and I went to a half dozen therapists over the years. At each initial session, every therapist took a look at me, then at her (5’4” 150 lbs.). Then he or she would gravely ask my wife, “Do you feel safe?”

None ever thought to ask me.

Thanks for listening.

Because this needs to be shared. Because abuse is wrong no matter what. Because this saddens my heart.

:(

honestly, fuck tumblr. if this was a woman this would be the only thing on my dash.

with that being said, fuck people who think that women are the only ones that can be abused in a relationship. and fuck crazy women, as well.

eeeeeeeeeee D:

Why does this have so few notes? If the man in this picture were actually a woman, this would have so many notes it’d be ridiculous. Everyone needs to see this. Everyone needs to see that abusers can be any shape or size, as if you need to see it to believe it.

And major kudos to this man for not using his size and weight when he very well could have. Kudos to you for being a decent human being, sir.

sickens me how few notes this has. Woman aren’t always these fragile lil creatures and if this post was by a woman, tumblr would be all over it.

This is bullshit. All these women complain about wanting equality, but most of them are sexist themselves. And then when things happen to men, “oh, it’s different because it’s a guy” no. Fuck that. No one deserves to be treated this way.

I obviously don’t usually post stuff like this (and sorry for this comment that’s only relevant to my followers) but I felt like I should share this with you guys.

chubbyguyswag: Fashion has no boundaries.

Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:23:03 +0800

chubbyguyswag:

Fashion has no boundaries.

thesteeletip: I’ve seen some of these “Plus Size” shots for...

Fri, 29 Mar 2013 16:46:49 +0800

thesteeletip:

I’ve seen some of these “Plus Size” shots for women … showing off their curves and reminding us all that women in all shapes and sizes are beautiful.

I haven’t seen any such thing for men until now. Men are sexy and attractive in all shapes and sizes. Note the lack of six pack abs, rippling biceps and completely hairless bodies.

Body acceptance is a big deal kids. Learn about it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Health_at_Every_Size

suicideblonde: Justin Timberlake photographed by Terry...

Sun, 10 Mar 2013 17:08:05 +0800

suicideblonde:

Justin Timberlake photographed by Terry Richardson

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rnethical: awhsnapcountrygirl: gerrardly: Yesterday my mom...

Sat, 09 Mar 2013 18:55:27 +0800

rnethical:

awhsnapcountrygirl:

gerrardly:

Yesterday my mom posted a picture on Facebook of my 5 year old brother Sam wearing a pair of shoes he picked out for his first day of preschool.

She explained to him in the store that they were really made for girls. Sam then told her that he didn’t care and that “ninjas can wear pink shoes too.”

Sam went to preschool and got several compliments on his new shoes. Not one kid said anything negative toward him about it.

However, my mom received about 20 comments on the photo from various family members saying how “wrong” it is and how “things like this will affect him socially” and, put most eloquently by my great aunt, “that shit will turn him gay.”

My mom then deleted the photo and told Sam that he can wear whatever he wants to preschool, that it’s his decision. If he wants to wear pink shoes, he can wear pink shoes.

Sam then explained to her that he didn’t like them because they were pink, he liked them because they were “made out of zebras” and zebras are his favorite animal :)

What does it say about society when a group of adults could stand to take a lesson in humanity from a class of preschoolers?

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teenagers-party-hard: elliottstables: quite possibly the...

Wed, 06 Mar 2013 17:05:07 +0800

teenagers-party-hard:

elliottstables:

quite possibly the greatest reaction to the meteor in russia

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Wed, 06 Mar 2013 17:02:42 +0800

nightbirdanderson: dementorkissmycooch: And people hate her...

Wed, 06 Mar 2013 17:00:33 +0800

nightbirdanderson:

dementorkissmycooch:

And people hate her because her song is too catchy?

Train might be pulling out too.

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